How is it possible that our brain is capable of instructing us to finger point at someone else, literally within a split second of an unfortunate event?

With a workshop coming up in August 2024, I am exploring the incredible talent most of us have developed to find someone who is to blame when something unfortunate has happened. Have a look at this 3 mins video, where Dr Brené Brown explores what happens when she drops a cup of coffee…

Individuals who resist taking responsibility for their choices and behaviours tend to blame others for unfortunate incidents. In doing so they represent that they do not have control over their lives: others are responsible and they are merely going along for the ride by being in the passenger seat.

Individuals who are in touch with their feelings and needs however, tend to accept responsibility for their choices and behaviours. They do not need to be blamed or made to feel guilty. They acknowledge when they make ‘mistakes’ and they make reparations when appropriate. They take responsibility for themselves because it increases their sense of empowerment.

The ability to accept responsibility – and thus avoid playing the blame-game -facilitates cooperation in relationships rather than competition and increases the opportunity for intimacy and mutual respect. Is that the more beautiful world you would like to live in?